One of the most confounding, mind-boggling aspects of this cancer journey was that the medical professionals we were counting on to co-ordinate John’s care sometimes seemed to be not communicating at all, each operating under a plan of action of which the other was completely unaware. One of the questions that continued to haunt us for this entire journey were:
“Who is in charge here? Who do I talk to?”
The answer to this question was for the most part buried in the shifting sands of circumstance. Even more daunting was the realization that the professionals to whom we were entrusting John’s life didn’t themselves seem to have a clear idea of the answer to this question. Furthermore, the miscommunications were so glaring that when we reported to one doctor what another had told us, the second doctor was so appalled that he immediately assumed that his colleague would never have said such a stupid thing– therefore, John and I must be complete idiots to have so grossly misunderstood.
For us, the majority of these problems initiated with the oncology department, the “black hole” of our HMO, to quote the vice president its Consumer Affairs department. Let me give some examples of the kind of routine occurrences which left us reeling in disbelief…
If you are reading this, it is probably because you have encountered some of the same mind-boggling, totally demoralizing medical miscommunication that we experienced– the kind of surreal exchanges that leave you feeling as though you might be losing your mind.
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